Oh what's this? Two posts in a week! :0 yes I have finally stopped being lazy and I also have something to moan about, so why not here!
People and their opinions. Opinions are great, they bring variety and interest into the world and everyone should have their own opinions as well as the ability to voice it. I am all for freedom of speech. But seriously, there is a limit and that limit is when people start saying judgemental crap about my life and the choices I have made.
I am not saying don't say anything to me about the way i'm living my life IF the way i've chosen is for example, making me unhappy, unhealthy (i.e. drug addiction, causing depression, etc). If you are friends or family and you see me making genuine mistakes that is causing the above, then yes, go ahead and say something. But if I tell you I am happy with the choices I'm making then butt the hell out or you will see me have a tantrum. And believe me when i say there is nothing worse than a 21 year old having a strop just because people decide it's ok for them to start dictating how I should live my life.
Now you may be wondering what brought along this sudden complain. Well, recently i have had a lot of people (namely family members, ahem father dearest, a few random people) telling me that i should become a teacher. And so i reply to them politely that teaching is not in my plan at the moment. But some people decide my choice is clearly not the right choice for them and so decide to Tell me, yes Tell, not suggest, that i should become what they want me to become. And this continues; people decide my choices are not right and so try to dictate my life and ignore me when i try to tell them of my plans. First I thought it was because they want me to be happy, but in reality its because people are so money orientated. My dad wants this so i can have a stable enough career to be an appropriate marriage prospect. Typical. The rest of the unwanted 'advice' comes from people who say that i'll get lots of money as an English teacher. Don't get me wrong, i know i need to earn money to live but if i don't at least try to do what i want to now, while i'm still young, i will end up living a life of regrets. And i don't want that.
So one day, i was being told what to do with my life and i sort of flipped. I went eerily silent, like those scary horror film ghosts that go quiet then pop up when you least expect it. And then i went for it. I didn't shout but i was getting there. Before you ask, i didn't say anything rude, all i said was what i intend to do and then i ended it with "it's my life". Now this, i thought, was rather polite of me considering how i was feeling inside. But of course to a Bengali family it was not taken well. I was actually told by someone to take a breath and this person said it in such a way it implied that i really should stop because i had gone too far. I had gone too far by voicing my opinion about my life when everyone else is free to do the same thing. And you know what really really annoyed me? when they said i was 'too young to understand'. Now this has been said a lot to me and that time i ignored it. But today, someone said this to me again. Apparently some people think they are superior to us mere children because they are older and so have experienced more. This may be the case, experience is something that brings knowledge. But each person's experiences are different from each other. If i didn't work with this person i would have told her that my experiences are not the same as hers and i may have experienced things she hasn't. So who is she to say that she knows more as she is older than me?
The point of this post may not necessarily be directed at you lovely people (unless you have done the things i just described). It is actually for all those who think it's okay to dictate someone else's life choices. Stay out of it. Unless a person is harming themselves (physically and/or mentally) let them make their own decisions even if you don't like it. And even if we screw up, or change our minds, don't brag about it! We need to make mistakes to learn from them, make a mistake once and don't repeat-that is how life works. Let us create our own experiences. And if you don't, then prepare yourself for some major tantrums and strops. and it won't be pretty coming from a twenty year old, it'll be humiliating for both sides. So unless asked for, keep your 'advice' to yourself. Thanks.
People and their opinions. Opinions are great, they bring variety and interest into the world and everyone should have their own opinions as well as the ability to voice it. I am all for freedom of speech. But seriously, there is a limit and that limit is when people start saying judgemental crap about my life and the choices I have made.
I am not saying don't say anything to me about the way i'm living my life IF the way i've chosen is for example, making me unhappy, unhealthy (i.e. drug addiction, causing depression, etc). If you are friends or family and you see me making genuine mistakes that is causing the above, then yes, go ahead and say something. But if I tell you I am happy with the choices I'm making then butt the hell out or you will see me have a tantrum. And believe me when i say there is nothing worse than a 21 year old having a strop just because people decide it's ok for them to start dictating how I should live my life.
Now you may be wondering what brought along this sudden complain. Well, recently i have had a lot of people (namely family members, ahem father dearest, a few random people) telling me that i should become a teacher. And so i reply to them politely that teaching is not in my plan at the moment. But some people decide my choice is clearly not the right choice for them and so decide to Tell me, yes Tell, not suggest, that i should become what they want me to become. And this continues; people decide my choices are not right and so try to dictate my life and ignore me when i try to tell them of my plans. First I thought it was because they want me to be happy, but in reality its because people are so money orientated. My dad wants this so i can have a stable enough career to be an appropriate marriage prospect. Typical. The rest of the unwanted 'advice' comes from people who say that i'll get lots of money as an English teacher. Don't get me wrong, i know i need to earn money to live but if i don't at least try to do what i want to now, while i'm still young, i will end up living a life of regrets. And i don't want that.
So one day, i was being told what to do with my life and i sort of flipped. I went eerily silent, like those scary horror film ghosts that go quiet then pop up when you least expect it. And then i went for it. I didn't shout but i was getting there. Before you ask, i didn't say anything rude, all i said was what i intend to do and then i ended it with "it's my life". Now this, i thought, was rather polite of me considering how i was feeling inside. But of course to a Bengali family it was not taken well. I was actually told by someone to take a breath and this person said it in such a way it implied that i really should stop because i had gone too far. I had gone too far by voicing my opinion about my life when everyone else is free to do the same thing. And you know what really really annoyed me? when they said i was 'too young to understand'. Now this has been said a lot to me and that time i ignored it. But today, someone said this to me again. Apparently some people think they are superior to us mere children because they are older and so have experienced more. This may be the case, experience is something that brings knowledge. But each person's experiences are different from each other. If i didn't work with this person i would have told her that my experiences are not the same as hers and i may have experienced things she hasn't. So who is she to say that she knows more as she is older than me?
The point of this post may not necessarily be directed at you lovely people (unless you have done the things i just described). It is actually for all those who think it's okay to dictate someone else's life choices. Stay out of it. Unless a person is harming themselves (physically and/or mentally) let them make their own decisions even if you don't like it. And even if we screw up, or change our minds, don't brag about it! We need to make mistakes to learn from them, make a mistake once and don't repeat-that is how life works. Let us create our own experiences. And if you don't, then prepare yourself for some major tantrums and strops. and it won't be pretty coming from a twenty year old, it'll be humiliating for both sides. So unless asked for, keep your 'advice' to yourself. Thanks.